This is a word that appears on the bottom of a lot of “newsletters” ones which I have no idea how they got my email address, which in itself is an oxymoron, as I’m a blogger and I am easily found. I get many, today I got “Rites of Passage”all about a tattoo festival which I did unsubscribe to, not only is it in Sydney but really not my thing.
I also a few years ago sent the word “unsubscribe” to a person who had texted me about their marriage break up, it was full of some of the nasty things both parties were saying to each other and as one of the parties is a close friend, I didn’t want to read it nor hear from that partner again. It worked, I never received another text from this person and would do it over again if it happens.
It’s actually a good way of not starting an argument and also staying out of one. I have had to unsubscribe myself from many things as I know (here’s the shocker) I have an opinion on most things. I can be divisive and have known this for many years, I have tempered myself over time and also had a great friend tell me once, “have that inner voice tell you to ‘shut up’, don”t enter a battle that will only cause a war.” It’s a very true statement as no one wins wars, there’s only fall outs and on going hostilities.
I told the person a couple of years later, I sent the unsubscribe to the ex and we still laugh about it today. My twin sister and I laugh a lot and make comments about who and what we would like to unsubscribe from, mostly it’s situations rather than people.
I have one today I’d like all Australian to be able to unsubscribe from and that’s our parliament full of people that can not make a decision without a fight. It’s boring, insulting and divisive, change the marriage act, stand up and be the people we voted for, ones who can make a decision. I know it was mandated so we are stuck with the people in Government for better or for worse.
My DH (Dear Husband) thinks I am enjoying the spectacle of the political undertakings, Julia squirming, Ministers having political dummy spits & Kevin well then there’s Kevin. I am hearing the words “micro-manager” “insular” “solo decision manager” “temperament & inability to have decisions made”. Not enough support yet as I said to DH is what they are not saying is that all these words amount to bullying. Why are they not saying it? is this because this goes against all of their Industrial Relations Laws. Bully’s should be dismissed immediately but as in this case it came from the top and when you are in a bullying situation it normally comes from the top. Think the previous David Jones Manager – besides sexual harassment it is bullying. There will be out cries from the Rudd supporters, nothing wrong with Micro- Managing – some managers have lots to share – which is disguised term for “do it my way or put up with the constant harassment, phone calls and exclusion.
We know he is a bully so why are they covering it in shades of grey? this would be because all Political Parties would have to be accountable for how they treat each other as examples to all employers all over the country. The Leadership spill is just the tip of the iceberg and should be taught in schools as classic bullying that is never resolved nor identified. Bully’s aren’t defined by size shape or position they are just people who think they “know better” “know more” “feel threatened” “taller” “shorter” “fatter” “thinner” “male” “female” and just plain mean and manipulative. We have all experienced this person, they are egocentric “but I’m meant to take responsibility for that” was a statement I was told once despite the fact I considered us a team and was only assisting as they were busy doing other things.
Bullys are also “victims” of their own press and self belief and they normally can not see or recognise the effect they have on others. I am thinking how dare they, he hold up in a 5 or 6 star hotel in America on the pigs back sucking the taxpayers money, he resigned all privileges should be revoked immediately and he should be given the bill. Never alone left to sit in this hotel racking up bills for himself and now the poor staff that would effectively be out of a job as he resigned his position. Selfish and a bully.I can’t think of 1 boss I have ever had that would have allowed this behaviour, approved a person to have asleep over in a hotel, get 1st class tickets to return after starting the fight. She in a 5 star hotel overlooking beautiful Glenelg beach, seeing her Mum I can get, when you are bullied, terminated, happy or sad some of us look to our Parents or significant others for emotional support. She is in a no win situation, not saying she is without blame but it is really poor form on his part. She the boss – is this sexual harassment on his part? would he be doing this to another man?
I feel cheated, my vote discounted, there will be hours of work / productivity wasted watching the school yard, office bully to attempt to appear the aggrieved and justify his actions and reactions. We shall await the fallout it will come and it is normally swift. To all of our pollies, many of us say “stop it, call an election for we the people paying your salaries deserve better and not to be dragged into the Board Room fight” Whether you like Kevin or Julia surely you can see this episode is nothing short of bullying. is anyone else feeling cheated watching this train wreck?
Well this certainly has been a week.. one which given the option I would not repeat other than the calls and emails of support from my Friends. It is amazing how you can have the hurt pants and cranky pants on at the same time and it comes back in the form of friendships and caring.
It has been a week of highs and lows, I am moving on from the job after speaking with the CEO, hopefully the lessons learnt will be passed to the next person. I shall finish up as asked and leave with dignity & with grace. It is amazing the push back or fight one gets when you feel backed into a corner. I have become proactive again, gotten over myself, enrolled in TAFESA and approached the Keith Hospital about a role within the organisation whilst we are working to try to save it. For those that do not know we are not out of the woods just yet. But we plan to be and we plan to fight for every dollar and every opportunity that comes our way.
I am about to write my report for the company I am leaving with all the contacts and status so that when we meet later in the month my replacement will reap the benefits of my work. I have no hesitation in doing this, I believe you end how you start, honestly and with goodwill. Don’t burn those bridges as they say you just never know. I have enrolled to do a Certificate III Retail Make-up and Skin Care, this is for my business where I get asked regularly do I do Make-Up Classes? for the School Formal and Deb ball’s now instead of turning business away I will say yes and hold classes on grooming for Both Sexes.
As for the Keith Hospital Role – they are considering it due diligence and I shall know the next week. It will be doing what I have been doing, fund-raising, functions coordinating, sponsorship gathering and general business development. Much similar to what i do now as a volunteer but it will (hopefully) be in the Hospital and it will really bring a professional corporate office / point person to carry on with the hard work that is being done by many within the community.
My week will finish better than it started and next week will not only be the ending of yet another work chapter for me, it will also be the start of as my friend Kate Swaffer said, don’t think of the person kicking you from behind as they shut the door on you look to the 100 other doors that are ready to be opened. She is an amazing lady suffering with early onset Dementia – her blog and she is inspirational if you wish to follow her here is her link. http://kateswaffer.wordpress.com/author/kateswaffer/
I also got a clean bill of health from the Dr, I have managed to reduce my cholesterol good and bad ones without medication, so i just need to keep the exercise up and lower it a bit more – Lucky I started that diet in December I am 5 kilos lighter and 1 point lower in my cholesterol I more to go but this is a changing year for me. I think I am beginning to fit into this new chapter of my life, living in the country, learning about others and stopping being so hard on myself. I hope everybody has a great day today and all the hardships from the week can be left behind as a memory or moved over.