Coming back

It’s hard some days to write on my own blog as my bullysbeefothermeats blog has been picked up by the global website mytrendingtories so I’m having to commit to doing at least 3 to 4 blogs per week on farming and I suppose it gets blurred but it’s been a thrill to have been asked. I am also the unpaid farm hand, who is needed to drive tractors, quad bikes, deliver farmer to paddocks in Utes so that he can do his job.

I do the selling of our meat, trade shows, doing our book work, budgets and finances for the business and feed baby animals when they arrive. Nothing gives me more joy than watching and assisting an orphaned animal survive and become part of the Caloundra farm family.

At the moment I have also been asked to present at a nurses conference so am about to put the final touches on my speech. This is for the South Australian Peri-operative Nurses Association. What a thrill and honour to be asked, but also slightly frightening at the same time. For all of you nurses out there join your association, now that we are under legislation to get our continuous development points or CPD to maintain our registration, our chosen profession has groups and associations that provide high quality education for country as well as city nurses to get their points.

I know when I renew my Registration Certificate each year we tick a box that says we know we are competent to work in the field in which we trained. I take this seriously and know that I am coming to the end of that grace period. I didn’t leave nursing to not keep up my skills, I married in the country and there is not a job for me within 150km’s so when I take one I know that I’ll need overnight accommodation and have to weigh up whether it’s worth it or not. I know that it is and I keep getting told “you should” “you have to” in relation to my nursing career.

I know this but it will also make me a FIFO, and I wonder how many of my fellow nurses would like this idea or do it. It does not mean fly in fly out it actually means, DODI Drive out and Drive in, I live where there is no airport, we have a landing strip for RFDS and hang gliders but not a commercial place for me to get to work and back. The drive will either be a 5.5 hour round trip or a 6 hour round trip. I have been told, he will travel to you, it’s a great theory but there is ALWAYS something on the farm that can keep him from family BBQ’s in Adelaide or events. When you have animals, it’s an obligation and life long passion to look after them, feed them and assist them when they birth if they are in trouble.

Getting work  within my area is difficult, as both hospitals in my area have their quota’s of nursing staff and unless anyone leaves then there is no opportunity. Also I am limited as I love the Operating theatres, it’s is where I always felt at home. I have and do firmly believe that we are the eyes, the ears and the voice for the unconscious, frightened and voiceless, if we are not there to protect, defend and care for all who come to theatre then we should move out and let someone else who has these values do it.

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Here I am as a nurse and my twin sister Jacqui as a chef, so from the age of 4.5 years it was my chosen dress up costume and career.

What is your chosen profession? Did you reach your goals? Have you taken the long route round?

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There’s always a kicker

I have discovered late in life about tyre kickers or time wasters it depends on how you view things. It’s like watching a TV show and you get 5 minutes to the end and someone tells you the ending or worse still comes and changes the channel on you , “but I just want a sports score.” that sort of thing. But can you detect these people in your everyday life?

I think I can comfortably say that at some stage in everybody’s life they would have been a kicker. This is a term I learnt from my Huz in referencing some one and I had to ask what it meant, he explained it like this, “it’s those people who come along, hang around the peripheries, ask questions, waste your time and move on like a tyre kicker.”  They waste your time or take something from you under false pretences.

It makes sense, I have seen those people in my life and I am slowly being able to identify them, confront then and move them along. They are not only time wasters but once you engage with them (in conversation) they suck information from you or tell you their opinion of you or something that you are involved in and are able to take the shine off  something for you. They pretend they don’t know what you mean when you front them, but are then affronted if you tell them how disgraceful their behavior, speech and or attitude is.

I try not to be a kicker in other people’s lives, and I have taken to thinking before I say things, as I look at some of these people and the words I want to say are just terrible and when you know you have to live in the same place with them it will not end well for me or them, so I try to react with more consideration and dignity that the speaker has dished out to me.

I have even heard of them doing this by stealth (phone) things like “can you just read / edit input your knowledge into a business proposal I’m doing?” When they get told no or happy to… my rates are.. you get the surprise answer “what, is this a wrong time to talk with you? or surely you can help me, or worse still I don’t have any money, I am doing this to get money.” So I say again why is someone’s time worth x amount and yours is worth nothing. Tyre kickers they come when you least expect it, but they are there, time wasters and not worthy of being entertained.

The worst type is the underground type, they engage you for work, sign a contract and then after you deliver said contracted work and hours they disappear. The phone is never answered, emails seem to magically not get responded to as if you never sent it, if you call the secretary they are ALWAYS in meetings. They are thieves, they steal not only your time but IP. These should be referred to a debt collector straight away, or reported to their industry body and then named and shamed till money is handed over, but what I recommend is hold off the vital part of the report you are doing and only hand it over when you get paid.

As for volunteers this makes it difficult as you have given your time for free and out of the goodness of your heart so getting satisfaction out of time wasters is difficult. It also depends on any and all conversations you have with them, but do not be fooled by false adoration or constant praise this is to lull you until they kick. They do it by exclusion from committees and boards as well as social events, then they have other people defend their behavior. There are many and wide excuses for their behavior but will use your own abilities against you, things like “you don’t have the skills required” “we asked the brainchild” “we know you are too busy” all of these are just excuses for bad behavior.

Next time you want to engage with someone do it, don’t beat around the bush or hide behind your position or social standing. Stop wasting other people’s time and trying to elicit information, contacts or ideas because you want to appear more knowledgeable than the person you are taking them from. Giving people the opportunity to be involved, included and consultative will work to everyone’s benefit.