hiding the truth is it a no no

I have arrived at work early thinking I would be able to get my blog done before I start my work, but as usual tiresome Tuesday’s are becoming the norm for me. I had mixed up my times and thought I had an hour from 0800 till 0900 before staff orientation, This is not to be I have mixed it up, but I have missed calculated my time management skills. I do run a diary but over the last couple of days have not looked at it my bad.

When dealing with the truth is hiding it a no no? I often wonder this as there are many things in people’s lives and work life that will reflect the need to tell the truth and nothing but the truth. In the words of Jack Nicholson “you can’t handle the truth’. Most people can’t and in some of my dealings and experiences with this issue, many prefer to hear the gossip truth, if they hear it from a 3rd party most times this is said as gospel. Whereas if you are fronted with it most people only hear what they want and dissect the rest for fodder.

Are we prepared to be ‘affronted’ as I was accused of causing yesterday. I used the word discrimination in a memo and was told this “affronted” a staff member, my response was “uhum” so I achieved my aim. The person this was directed at was the person who took the most offense and that is not surprising considering the memo.  I have asked this person to come back to me and tell me how I could have worded it without being specific to the person it was aimed at and how can we stop this behaviour. To my surprise that person has spoken with me and identified it was directed to them as upon them gleaning support from fellow staff it was found this was not there. I was actually thanked as they are now aware that I was hiding the truth. Should this be the example of not hiding the truth or should we move forward to ‘putting it out there.”

There are many aspects to my job where I have to not disclose people’s names and not just to protect their privacy but to protect them from gossip, bullying and all forms of things we wish not to experience in our work place. I am a protector or secrets, an advocate of rights, the voice of the unconscious and people who are unable to defend themselves and most importantly I wrestle with the fact that I like to treat people the way I would like yet there are times where the truth hidden is a blessing in disguise.